Reaching out for help isn’t easy — so being here is already a brave and meaningful first step.
As a psychotherapist, my role is to walk alongside you as you navigate the challenges you’re facing. Together, we don’t just focus on reducing symptoms — the goal is to help you build resilience, find balance, and create a more fulfilling life.
I work with people struggling with anxiety, stress, burnout, depression, relationship difficulties, low self-esteem, and the impact of past traumas that may be holding them back from living fully. However my main focus is couples therapy and the healing of mother–daughter attachment wounds. When a mother is unable to meet her daughter’s emotional needs, that daughter may grow up struggling with stress, perfectionism, self-criticism, body image concerns, low self-esteem, difficulty setting boundaries, fear, depression, and a strong tendency to please others.
I offer individual therapy to support people who feel weighed down by anxiety, stress, burnout, trauma, or low self-esteem. Our sessions provide a safe and understanding space to explore what feels difficult, strengthen inner resources, and move toward greater balance and well-being.
In couple therapy, I support partners at any stage of their relationship who may be feeling distant, stuck in recurring conflicts, or struggling with communication, trust, and emotional closeness. Together, we create a space to understand one another more deeply and to rediscover connection.
The Mental Health Package is designed to support the emotional wellbeing, resilience, and productivity of your employees. It combines individual psychological support, group learning, and organizational wellbeing strategies to create a culture where mental health is valued and openly supported.
”Until you make the subconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate “
-C.G. Jung
About me
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Education:
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Master’s in Clinical Psychology – Universidad Europea
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Gottman´s couple therapy training 1 & 2
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CBT training- Academy of Modern Applied Psychology
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Bachelor of Psychology – UNED
My name is Vaida Job. I was born in Lithuania, and over the past two decades, I've lived in Finland, Spain, The Netherlands and Switzerland, calling each place home along the way. Living and working in so many cultures has shaped not only who I am but also how I connect with people and understand the diverse challenges they face in everyday life.
With nearly 20 years of professional experience, I bring a unique perspective to therapy. I have seen firsthand the pressures, transitions, and private struggles that often accompany demanding careers and modern lifestyles.
Now I work with both individuals and couples who want to build healthier relationships, strengthen self-esteem, and manage challenges like anxiety, stress, burnout, trauma, or communication issues. With couples, I draw on the Gottman Method, focusing on improving understanding and deepening connection. With individuals, I use CBT, ACT, IFS along with practices that support emotional awareness, boundaries, and inner growth. I aim to offer a supportive space where together we can discover pathways toward resilience and well-being.
In addition to private therapy sessions, I facilitate well-regarded seminars for companies. These focus on stress management, understanding personality differences, time management, and other tools that promote both employee wellbeing and workplace harmony. My aim is to support healthier individuals and more resilient organizations.
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Interactive Seminars for Companies
Many of the world's most successful companies have already integrated psychological support programmes in their business agendas. If you also want to support your employees, you came to the right place! In my live workshops about stress, time management, different personalities at work, etc, we'll dive deep into practical, engaging content so that your team can integrate it RIGHT AWAY!
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When stress overrules you, try taking a few slow, deep breaths in and out. And you will feel how the stress gradually starts to subside.
English-Speaking Psychotherapist in Madrid | Couples Therapy and Anxiety Treatment for Expats
Living abroad presents distinctive emotional hurdles that conventional therapy frequently fails to address. As an English-speaking psychotherapist with nearly 20 years of clinical experience supporting international communities across five nations, I comprehend the multifaceted dimensions of stress, anxiety, and relational difficulties that expatriates encounter in Spain. My practice focuses exclusively on expat therapy services in Madrid, providing a secure therapeutic environment where linguistic and cultural barriers dissolve, enabling authentic healing and personal growth.
Whether you're grappling with anxiety and burnout as an expat professional, navigating intricate mother-daughter attachment wounds, or seeking Gottman Method couples therapy for your international partnership, my therapeutic methodology integrates evidence-based interventions with profound cultural sensitivity. Having resided in Lithuania, Finland, the Netherlands, Switzerland, and Spain for two decades, I bring both professional expertise and personal expatriate understanding to create a therapeutic space where explaining the expat experience becomes unnecessary—it's inherently understood.
Individual Therapy for Anxiety, Stress and Burnout in Madrid
Anxiety therapy for English-speaking expats in Madrid necessitates more than conventional clinical interventions—it requires explicit recognition of the unique pressures international professionals face. From visa uncertainties and career transitions to social isolation and identity shifts, expatriate anxiety manifests distinctly compared to native contexts. My therapeutic approach incorporating CBT and ACT therapy in English directly addresses these specific challenges, assisting you in developing coping strategies that acknowledge both your professional demands and personal cultural adaptation journey.
The experience of living abroad creates a unique psychological landscape where familiar support systems disappear and daily tasks become complex navigational challenges. This constant state of adaptation can trigger underlying anxiety disorders or create new manifestations of stress that feel unfamiliar even to those who have never experienced mental health concerns before. Understanding that expatriate anxiety operates on multiple levels simultaneously—practical, emotional, and existential—allows for more targeted and effective therapeutic intervention.
As a specialized burnout therapist for professionals in Madrid, I regularly collaborate with high-achieving expatriates experiencing professional exhaustion compounded by cultural adjustment stress. The therapeutic process integrates cognitive restructuring with mindfulness-based interventions, creating sustainable resilience that acknowledges the unique pressures of international careers. Trauma therapy using CBT, ACT, and IFS approaches within Madrid's international community demands particular sensitivity to cross-cultural trauma and displacement experiences that traditional models may overlook.
Professional burnout among expats frequently stems from the pressure to prove oneself in a new environment, coupled with the exhaustion of constant cultural code-switching and the loss of professional identity markers that provided confidence in one's home country. Sessions explore how perfectionism, achievement orientation, and cultural adaptation demands intersect to create overwhelming stress patterns. By addressing root causes rather than symptoms alone, we establish lasting change that supports both your professional performance and emotional well-being in Spain's dynamic environment.
Specialized Treatment Approaches for Expat Anxiety
Treatment emphasizes practical, actionable strategies while honoring your unique expatriate narrative. We explore how achievement orientation and cultural code-switching contribute to anxiety patterns, examining the ways in which professional identity shifts impact self-concept. The therapeutic relationship provides a stable anchor during the uncertainty of cultural adaptation, offering consistent support regardless of external circumstances. This foundation enables deeper exploration of how past experiences and current stressors intersect in the expatriate context.
Healing Mother-Daughter Attachment Wounds
Mother-daughter attachment therapy represents one of my most specialized offerings—nearly unique among English-speaking therapy for expats in Madrid. These deeply rooted relational wounds often resurface during major life transitions, particularly when living abroad amplifies feelings of disconnection, abandonment, or emotional inadequacy. The physical distance from family can intensify unresolved attachment patterns, making expatriate life a powerful catalyst for healing—or further pain.
The therapeutic work explores how early relational experiences shape your current relationships, self-worth, and emotional responses. Using psychotherapy for attachment wounds in English, we examine intergenerational patterns, enmeshment or emotional neglect histories, and how these dynamics manifest in your adult life, particularly within the context of building a life far from your family of origin. The approach integrates CBT and IFS therapy techniques specifically adapted for women navigating cultural identity formation while processing family-of-origin trauma.
Living abroad often creates a unique opportunity for attachment work, as the physical distance from family can provide the emotional space necessary to explore painful patterns without immediate familial pressure or influence. However, this same distance can also intensify feelings of abandonment or activate anxious attachment behaviors as familiar support structures disappear. Understanding this dual dynamic is crucial for effective therapeutic intervention that honors both the pain and potential of expatriate life.
Transformative Impact of Attachment Healing
Healing attachment wounds as an expat woman in Madrid creates ripple effects across all relationships—romantic, professional, and social. Clients frequently discover that addressing these foundational patterns transforms not only how they relate to their mothers, but how they appear as partners, friends, and professionals. The work is profound, collaborative, and specifically designed for the complexities of international living and the unique challenges of building identity across cultural contexts.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy for International Couples
Gottman Method couples therapy for expats in Madrid addresses the unique stressors international partnerships face: visa dependencies, career sacrifices, conflicting cultural values, and the loss of extended support networks. This evidence-based approach provides concrete tools for navigating these challenges while strengthening emotional connection. My certification as a Gottman Method therapist ensures you're receiving scientifically validated interventions with documented success rates for relationship improvement.
International couples often struggle with cultural miscommunications that outsiders might dismiss as typical relationship issues. A bilingual couples therapist in Madrid recognizes how different cultural expressions of love, conflict, and commitment can create persistent misunderstanding. The Gottman approach for international couples systematically addresses these layers through structured interventions that improve friendship, conflict management, and shared meaning creation across cultural boundaries.
The methodology begins with comprehensive assessment tools that identify your relationship's specific strengths and growth areas. These assessments consider cultural background, communication styles, and the unique stressors of international life. Based on assessment results, we develop targeted interventions that build on existing strengths while addressing specific vulnerabilities exacerbated by expatriate circumstances. This data-driven approach ensures therapy remains focused and efficient.
Building Resilient International Partnerships
Couples therapy sessions focus on building "Sound Relationship House" principles while acknowledging cultural differences in values around family, career, gender roles, and emotional expression. We identify your specific stressors—whether relating to residency status, career inequality, or isolation from community—and develop targeted strategies. This method transforms conflict into opportunities for deeper understanding, creating a partnership resilient enough to thrive across borders and withstand the pressures inherent in international living.
Therapy for Expats: Understanding the Challenges of Living in Spain
Therapy for expats in Madrid must address a unique constellation of challenges that differentiate it from traditional psychotherapy. The loss of professional identity, language barriers that create daily micro-traumas, the absence of familiar support systems, and the pressure to "make the most" of the expatriate experience all contribute to emotional distress. Online therapy for expats throughout Spain provides continuity of care that respects the mobility inherent in international life and ensures consistent support regardless of location.
Cultural adaptation involves grieving—even when the move is positive. Expat mental health support in English creates space to acknowledge losses of career momentum, family proximity, cultural familiarity, and sense of belonging without judgment. Many clients initially feel "privileged guilt" about struggling when theoretically living their dream; therapy validates that all major life transitions, regardless of their positive aspects, involve legitimate psychological adjustment and deserve professional support.
Psychotherapy for the international community in Madrid also addresses identity fragmentation—feeling "not quite" at home anywhere, developing a hybrid identity that doesn't fully fit in Spain nor your country of origin. This liminal space, while rich with potential, can be profoundly destabilizing and create persistent existential questioning. My approach normalizes these experiences while helping you integrate your multiple cultural selves into a coherent, empowered identity that embraces complexity rather than seeking oversimplified belonging.
Navigating the Hidden Costs of Expat Life
Beyond the visible challenges, expatriate life carries hidden psychological costs that accumulate over time. The constant need to prove oneself professionally in a new context, the exhaustion of navigating bureaucratic systems in a second language, and the subtle erosion of confidence that comes from daily misunderstandings all tax mental resources. Recognizing these cumulative stressors is essential for preventing burnout and maintaining long-term psychological well-being while building a meaningful life abroad.
Evidence-Based Approaches: CBT, ACT and IFS
CBT therapy in English for expats in Madrid offers structured, goal-oriented treatment for anxiety, depression, and adjustment disorders. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helps identify thought patterns distorted by cultural disorientation and develop realistic perspectives on your adaptation process. This practical approach complements the deeper exploration work often needed for attachment wounds and identity issues, providing immediate tools for managing symptoms while longer-term healing occurs.
The cognitive model examines how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors interact, particularly how cultural context influences automatic thoughts. For expats, CBT might address catastrophic thinking about visa issues, all-or-nothing thinking about cultural adaptation, or personalization of cultural misunderstandings. By developing more flexible thinking patterns, clients build resilience against the cognitive distortions that frequently accompany cross-cultural transitions.
ACT therapy (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) for expatriates proves particularly valuable for addressing the ambiguity and lack of control inherent in immigration processes. ACT helps you develop psychological flexibility, allowing you to accept uncertain visa statuses, career ambiguity, and cultural misunderstandings while committing to values-driven action. This approach prevents the paralysis that perfectionism and need for control can create in unpredictable expatriate circumstances and promotes meaningful living despite external challenges.
Acceptance in this context doesn't mean resignation but rather acknowledging reality without unnecessary struggle. Expat life frequently involves aspects outside one's control, from immigration timelines to cultural norms. ACT teaches mindfulness skills that allow you to observe these realities without becoming overwhelmed, while clarifying personal values that guide committed action toward a fulfilling life abroad, regardless of circumstances.
IFS therapy (Internal Family Systems) in English offers profound healing for complex attachment trauma and identity fragmentation. This innovative model views the psyche as composed of different "parts"—some protective, some wounded, some exiled. For expats, IFS brilliantly illuminates internal conflicts between the part that "should be grateful" and parts grieving losses or feeling overwhelmed. As an English-speaking IFS therapist with 20 years experience, I guide clients in unburdening these parts, creating internal harmony that supports external adaptation.
Integrating Multiple Therapeutic Modalities
The integration of these three approaches allows for comprehensive treatment that addresses both immediate symptoms and deeper patterns. While CBT provides practical tools for managing anxiety and depression, ACT builds the psychological flexibility necessary for thriving in uncertainty, and IFS resolves the internal conflicts and attachment wounds that underlie many expatriate mental health challenges. This combination ensures therapy addresses you as a whole person within your unique cultural context.
Online and In-Person Sessions in Madrid
Online therapy for expats across Spain provides essential flexibility for international professionals juggling time zones, travel schedules, and unpredictable demands. Virtual sessions maintain therapeutic continuity during work trips, family visits abroad, or relocations within Spain. The therapeutic relationship and effectiveness remain consistent across formats, ensuring you never sacrifice mental health support for logistical challenges inherent in international living.
Technical considerations for online therapy include ensuring secure, HIPAA-compliant platforms that protect confidentiality across international borders. Sessions accommodate varying internet speeds and technical capabilities, with backup plans for connectivity issues. Many clients appreciate the convenience and comfort of attending therapy from their own homes, particularly when dealing with anxiety or depression that makes leaving home difficult.
In-person therapy in Madrid offers a dedicated sanctuary from expatriate life's demands—a physical space where you can disconnect from digital nomad work, caregiving responsibilities, or social performance pressures. Face-to-face sessions provide nuanced non-verbal communication that can deepen therapeutic work, particularly valuable for attachment healing and couples therapy. My central Madrid location ensures accessibility from all neighborhoods popular with expatriates, including Salamanca, Chamberí, and Malasaña.
Hybrid Models for Maximum Flexibility
Both formats maintain the same therapeutic standards, confidentiality, and commitment. Many clients choose a hybrid model—some sessions in-person, others online—maximizing convenience without compromising care quality. This flexibility reflects the reality of expat life, where rigid structures often create additional stress rather than support, and acknowledges that therapeutic needs may vary based on current circumstances, travel schedules, and personal preferences.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if I need therapy as an expat?
Seeking expat therapy in Madrid makes sense if you're experiencing persistent anxiety, sadness, relationship strain, or professional burnout that doesn't improve with time. Signs include: feeling isolated despite social connections, difficulty adjusting after 6+ months, using unhealthy coping mechanisms, or experiencing conflict in your relationship related to cultural differences. A free 15-minute consultation can help clarify whether therapy would benefit you and provide an opportunity to discuss your specific concerns with a specialized professional.
Additional indicators might include persistent sleep disturbances, changes in appetite, difficulty concentrating at work, or feeling emotionally numb. The stress of expatriate life can exacerbate pre-existing conditions or trigger new mental health challenges. Early intervention prevents minor difficulties from becoming major crises and provides tools for navigating the ongoing stressors of international living.
What is mother-daughter attachment therapy and how can it help me?
Mother-daughter attachment therapy in English addresses how early maternal relationships shape your adult emotional patterns, self-worth, and relationship choices. This specialized therapy helps expat women understand why transitions abroad intensify old wounds—feelings of abandonment, inadequacy, or difficulty trusting others. Healing these patterns transforms not only your maternal relationship but your capacity for intimacy and self-compassion across all life areas, particularly when building new relationships far from family.
The therapy process involves exploring attachment patterns, understanding how they manifest in current relationships, and developing earned secure attachment through corrective emotional experiences in therapy. For expat women, this work often addresses how cultural differences in family values and expectations complicate already complex maternal relationships, creating space to develop your own values separate from family expectations.
How does Gottman couples therapy work for international couples?
Gottman Method couples therapy for expats uses research-based assessments to identify your relationship's specific strengths and challenges. Over 12-24 sessions, you'll learn concrete skills for managing conflict, deepening friendship, and creating shared meaning. For international couples, particular attention focuses on navigating cultural differences, visa stress, and support network loss. The structured approach provides clarity and practical tools in a relationship landscape often defined by ambiguity and multiple cultural expectations.
The method includes specific interventions like the "Dreams Within Conflict" exercise, which helps couples understand the underlying values and dreams behind seemingly intractable disagreements—particularly valuable when cultural values differ. Regular feedback and assessment ensure therapy remains focused and effective, with clear markers of progress throughout the process.
Do you offer online therapy sessions for expats outside Madrid?
Yes, online therapy for expats throughout Spain provides the same quality care as in-person sessions. Whether you're in Barcelona, Valencia, or smaller cities lacking specialized English-speaking therapists, virtual sessions offer accessibility and continuity. Many clients alternate formats based on travel schedules, ensuring consistent therapeutic progress regardless of location. All sessions use secure, HIPAA-compliant platforms that maintain confidentiality across borders.
Online sessions are particularly valuable for expats who may need to relocate within Spain or travel frequently for work. The consistency of working with the same therapist throughout these transitions provides stability amid change and prevents disruption to therapeutic progress. Technical setup is straightforward, with support provided for platform navigation and troubleshooting.
How long does therapy typically take to see results?
Therapy for expats typically shows initial improvements in 6-8 sessions, though deeper work on attachment wounds or complex trauma may require 6-12 months. Gottman Method couples therapy generally involves 12-24 sessions for lasting change. Factors affecting timeline include issue severity, session frequency, and your engagement with therapeutic practices between sessions. A free consultation allows us to discuss realistic expectations for your specific situation and develop a treatment plan tailored to your goals.
It's important to understand that therapy is not a quick fix but a process of building self-awareness, developing new skills, and creating lasting change. Some clients choose to begin with weekly sessions and transition to bi-weekly or monthly maintenance sessions as they develop greater stability. The goal is always to empower you with tools and insights that continue serving you long after therapy concludes.
What makes your approach different for expatriates?
With nearly 20 years of clinical experience and personal expatriate living in five countries, I bring both professional expertise and lived understanding to expat therapy in Madrid. Unlike general therapists, I recognize how cultural adaptation, legal uncertainties, and identity shifts fundamentally change therapeutic needs. My specializations in Gottman Method, mother-daughter attachment, and evidence-based approaches (CBT, ACT, IFS) address expatriates' specific challenges with culturally sensitive, scientifically validated methods.
This combination of professional training and personal experience means you won't need to explain the basics of expat life, allowing us to focus immediately on your specific challenges. I understand the grief that accompanies even positive moves, the identity fragmentation that can occur, and the unique pressures facing international relationships and families. This shared understanding creates a foundation of trust and accelerates therapeutic progress.
How much does therapy cost and do you accept insurance?
Therapy represents an investment in your mental health and relationship quality. Contact me directly to discuss current rates and available packages. While I don't accept Spanish insurance directly, many international insurance plans reimburse therapy costs. I provide detailed invoices for reimbursement purposes. The initial 15-minute consultation is complimentary, allowing you to explore fit before committing financially and ensuring you feel confident in your therapeutic choice.
Package options often include reduced rates for committing to a series of sessions, making therapy more financially accessible. Many clients find that investing in their mental health pays dividends in professional performance, relationship satisfaction, and overall quality of life. The cost of not addressing mental health concerns typically far exceeds the financial investment in therapy.
What should I expect in my first therapy session?
Your initial therapy session in English involves discussing your current challenges, personal history, and therapeutic goals. For individual therapy, we'll explore how expatriate life impacts your mental health. For Gottman couples therapy, both partners complete comprehensive relationship assessments. This session helps determine whether we're a good therapeutic fit and establishes a collaborative treatment plan tailored to your unique circumstances as an expat navigating Spanish culture and international life demands.
The first session also includes discussing practical matters like confidentiality, session frequency, and therapeutic approach. I encourage clients to ask questions about my experience, methods, and what to expect from the therapeutic process. This collaborative approach ensures you feel informed and empowered from the beginning, establishing a partnership dynamic rather than an expert-patient hierarchy.
Take the First Step: Your Journey Toward Healing Starts Here
If you're feeling overwhelmed by the challenges of expat life, I'm here to help you navigate this complex journey. Whether you're struggling with anxiety, burnout, relationship difficulties, or the intricate emotions of living between cultures, you don't have to face these challenges alone. My specialized approach combines scientific rigor with deep cultural understanding, creating a therapeutic experience that truly resonates with the international community in Madrid and throughout Spain.
Schedule your free 15-minute consultation today to discuss how therapy can support you. This no-commitment conversation allows us to explore your needs, answer your questions, and determine whether we're a good fit for working together. With nearly 20 years of experience supporting expatriates and formal certifications in Gottman Method couples therapy and evidence-based approaches, I offer expertise that understands both the clinical and cultural dimensions of your experience.
Your mental health matters, regardless of where you are in your expatriate journey. Whether you're newly arrived in Spain or a long-term international resident, therapy provides tools for not just surviving abroad, but thriving. Contact me today to begin building the emotional resilience, self-understanding, and relationship satisfaction you deserve. The journey toward healing and wholeness is available, and you don't have to walk it alone.